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- Rebuilding Relationships (90 min)
🌿 Holistic Relationship Counselling: Nurturing Bonds, Mind, Body, & Spirit 🌿 Navigating the complexities of relationships requires understanding, patience, and the right guidance. As a holistic relationship counsellor, I offer a comprehensive approach to nurturing the bonds between partners. Beyond traditional therapeutic techniques, I integrate holistic practices that address not only the emotional and mental aspects but also the spiritual and physical dimensions of your relationship. Why choose me for your relationship journey? Customized Strategies: Every relationship is unique. I craft bespoke healing and growth strategies tailored to the specific dynamics and challenges of your partnership. Holistic Healing: Harnessing the power of both modern counselling techniques and ancient holistic practices, I ensure a balanced pathway to relationship harmony. Safe Space for Couples: Step into an empathetic, non-judgmental, and confidential environment where both partners can openly express, listen, and evolve. Empowerment and Growth: My sessions aim not only to resolve conflicts but to empower couples with insights and tools for sustained love, understanding, and resilience in their journey together. Embark on a transformative journey to deepen your connection, understanding, and love. Together, let's co-create a harmonious relationship where mind, body, and spirit flourish in unison. 🌟❤️🤝
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- Fear does not need to Control Us
Fear has been my nemesis for a long time. Especially fear of heights. Somehow my subconscious mind will always say that I can't possibly do it and I would let fear take over and control me. I allowed fear to steer and control me as opposed to me being the steerer of my own life. For the last 10 years, I have been pushing my boundaries with fear. I had a marriage breakdown and had to learn to live on my own. I had to learn who I am and what I want out of life. I resigned from my high-paying job to study and do what I am passionate about without any backup plan. I started travelling on my own to unknown places. I went on a boat into the deepest point of the ocean. I drove long distances on my own. I climbed a bridge and ziplined 72 metres above the river, I went on a four-day rail cycle, got injured and continued riding 200km. I faced my fear of riding through mountain trails and riding along thin high bridges. I faced my fear of sitting on a mountain. I have abseiled down a cave with snakes. I have parasailed 800 metres swinging in the air. I started my counselling business even though I was fearful of not being good enough. My purpose, the validation, and the joy I receive from counselling have given me the light to keep on going. I am sharing a snippet of my journey to let you know that you can do it too. While there are still things that I need to conquer I truly believe fear no longer controls me. Instead, I face and acknowledge what I need to do to work through my worries. You may have a different type of fear or challenge to overcome. Things that may cause you to be anxious, cause you pain, worry, and sleepless nights. What I encourage you to do is take little steps to face your fear. When we are controlled by fear we miss opportunities that could be amazing and could change our life. But how does one truly overcome fear from a holistic perspective? Self-awareness: Recognizing and accepting your fears is the first step. It's okay to be scared. What matters is how you confront and manage that fear. Mindful Acceptance: Embrace the present. While it's essential to plan for the future, obsessing over it feeds your anxieties. Mindfulness practices, such as meditation and deep breathing exercises, can center your thoughts and keep you grounded. Positive Affirmations: Replace negative thoughts with positive affirmations. Instead of saying, "I can't," tell yourself, "I will try." Seek Support: Sometimes, discussing your fears with someone, be it a friend, family, or professional, can offer a fresh perspective and strategies to cope. While our journeys are not the same, let my journey be a testament that fear, while a powerful adversary, is not insurmountable. . Freedom comes when you let yourself be free of the restraints that keep pulling you in. Keep placing one foot in front of the other. So, take that leap, face those challenges, and remember: WE CAN EITHER SIT OR STAND UP AND GO AS HIGH AS WE POSSIBLY CAN! #fear #overcoming #lettinggo #attachment #empower #holistic #counselling #counsellor #therapy #authentic #bebrave #mentalhealth #overthinking #anxiety #healthandwellness #freedom #fearisnotyourenemy #intuition #beliefs #self #goodenough By Tersia Woodenberg (SoulCheck)
- Navigating the Complex World of Narcissism: Understanding, Identifying, and Moving Forward
Narcissism is one of those topics that many of us encounter in passing but rarely dive into deeply. It's often misunderstood, and despite the word “narcissist” being used casually, genuine narcissistic behavior can be challenging to navigate and emotionally exhausting. Let’s break down what narcissism actually is, how to recognize it, and how to protect yourself if it becomes a part of your life. What is narcissism, really? While narcissism often brings to mind a person with an inflated sense of self, true narcissism – particularly in a clinical sense – goes much deeper. Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) is a mental health condition characterized by grandiosity, a constant need for admiration, and often, a lack of empathy for others. However, not every self-centered person qualifies as having NPD; it's a spectrum, and most people with narcissistic traits won't necessarily have the disorder. Those with narcissistic tendencies often exhibit some or all of the following behaviors: Exaggerated sense of self-importance A deep need for excessive attention and admiration Entitlement and arrogance Manipulative or exploitative behavior Lack of empathy for others Some may have narcissistic tendencies without fitting all these criteria, which can still impact relationships and environments around them. Recognizing narcissistic behavior Identifying narcissistic behavior is not always easy, especially because many narcissists are highly skilled at presenting themselves as charming, charismatic, and even altruistic in public. Here are a few common signs to watch for: Grandiosity and Self-Centeredness : Narcissists tend to believe they are special or superior to others, often exaggerating their achievements and talents. Lack of Empathy : One of the hallmark traits, they often struggle to understand or care about the feelings of others, which can make personal connections feel one-sided and transactional. Attention-Seeking Behavior : Whether through charm, drama, or even victimhood, narcissists crave admiration and will manipulate situations to keep the focus on themselves. Manipulation and Control : They can be very controlling, using manipulation tactics like gaslighting, guilt-tripping, or shifting blame to maintain power in relationships. Inability to Handle Criticism : Narcissists are extremely sensitive to criticism, often reacting with anger, defensiveness, or even retaliation. The impact of narcissism on relationships Relationships with narcissists – whether romantic, familial, or professional – can be emotionally draining. Their need for admiration and their focus on themselves often leaves little room for mutual support, making it difficult for the other person to feel truly valued. Narcissistic individuals can also create a cycle of manipulation, building others up only to break them down, leaving friends, partners, or family members questioning their worth or reality. It’s important to remember that narcissists are highly skilled at painting a picture of themselves as victims when it suits them. This can make it hard to set boundaries or to get the emotional support needed when dealing with them. Dealing with narcissistic people: How to protect yourself While it can be painful and challenging to manage relationships with narcissistic individuals, setting boundaries and focusing on self-care are essential steps. Here are some strategies that can help: Set Clear Boundaries : Establishing clear boundaries around what behavior you will and will not tolerate is essential. Be firm and consistent with these boundaries, as narcissists often push limits to test control. Limit Emotional Engagement : Engaging with a narcissist emotionally can often feel like a losing battle. Avoid feeding into their attempts to guilt-trip, manipulate, or draw excessive attention to themselves. Avoid Trying to “Fix” Them : Narcissism is a deeply ingrained personality trait, and efforts to change or fix someone’s narcissistic behavior are unlikely to succeed and may even backfire. Focus on Self-Care : Narcissists can drain emotional energy quickly. Prioritize time for activities that replenish you, from hobbies and exercise to time spent with supportive friends. Seek Support : If the relationship becomes too overwhelming or negatively impacts your mental health, consider seeking support from a therapist who can help you process your emotions and develop strategies to protect yourself. Know When to Walk Away : Sometimes, the best option is to step back or cut ties altogether. If a narcissist’s behavior consistently undermines your self-worth or causes you harm, remember that prioritizing your well-being is not selfish but essential. Breaking the stigma and recognizing your needs Narcissism isn’t just about someone being “full of themselves.” It’s a complex personality trait that can deeply impact the people around them. Understanding the behaviors and establishing firm boundaries can help protect your mental health and allow you to maintain a sense of self-worth. Self-empowerment is essential when dealing with a narcissist. This means recognizing your value, setting limits, and remembering that you don’t have to shoulder the burden of their emotions or behaviors. Whether it’s a friend, family member, partner, or colleague, knowing your limits and respecting them is a sign of strength. Moving forward: Embracing healthier relationships Breaking free from the effects of a narcissistic relationship can take time, and healing is often a process. Being aware of narcissistic behaviors allows you to set healthier boundaries and choose relationships that uplift and support you. If you’ve found this insight helpful, know that understanding and self-compassion are your best allies. Narcissism is not your responsibility to fix, but understanding it can empower you to protect your peace and surround yourself with genuine, supportive relationships. Remember, your life is yours to live without being overshadowed by someone else’s needs, and you deserve connections that nurture and respect your individuality. Written by Tersia Woodenberg Soulcheck Holistic Therapy Bookasession | Soulcheck Holistic Therapy #Narcissism #MentalHealthAwareness #SelfCare #HealthyBoundaries #EmotionalWellbeing #RelationshipAdvice #Empowerment #ProtectYourPeace #MentalHealthJourney #Wellness #Therapy #Soulcheck #Counselling #Holistic
- Real Talk - Change can be necessary to evolve
Going through my self-empowerment and healing journey, I found myself writing quite often. Sometimes I would write about things that happened along the way—moments of clarity, pain, or discovery as I learned more about myself. Every now and then, memories and reminders pop up on my phone at just the right time, showing me how far I’ve come and grown. They remind me that even when the road was tough, there’s progress and you come out better for it. That’s why I felt called to share this—because I know there are other women out there going through their own journeys and hoping to make it out stronger on the other side. I succeeded and so can you. One thing that regularly came up on my journey was the way people view women who’ve become single after marriage or break up. There’s this assumption that single women are out there searching, looking for someone to replace what they had. Sure, that might be true for some, but for most women , it’s not about that. It’s about recovery and finding themselves. At least that's what I did. When a marriage or break up ends, it feels like your entire world is turned upside down. The life you thought you had, the person you thought you were—it’s all gone. The idea of who you are is gone. The vision of where you’re headed is gone. The home and family you created feels like it’s slipping away. The dream of forever is shattered. It’s like living in a glass box that suddenly breaks into a million pieces. For myself there was a naivety about life and I was stuck in a place where I could not get out. While there was relief, conditioned patterns of behaviour and what you have known for so many years of your life create confusion and cause unsettlement. You have to start unpacking and learning a new way of life and a new normal to what you have become accustomed to living for so many years. You have to unmask the mask you were living. My mind was filled with endless questions, some clear, some uncertain: Who am I now? What’s my purpose? Where do I belong? Will I make it through this? What will happen to my children? How will this impact them? Why did this happen? Are people going to judge me? Why are people judging me And let’s be real—some of these questions might never have clear answers, but that's ok everything eventually makes sense. This journey is messy, raw, and painful and scary. Confidence and self-esteem take a dive. Some days it feels like you’re drowning in emotions: The pain and heartbreak. The trauma and fear. The shame and guilt. The mourning for everything you lost. Questioning your worth The failure The embarrassment A lot of women blame themselves, replaying every little moment and wondering, What could I have done differently? The truth is, most women aren’t sitting around thinking about finding the next companion. We’re too busy trying to find ourselves . Regardless of whether you had an amazing marriage that broke down or an unsafe marriage that kept you in a trauma bond or codependency due to financial dependence, whatever the journey may be, even though there is profound relief in leaving dreadful circumstances, there are still the same challenges you must navigate. Most of us don’t put our pain on display. We deal with it quietly, in the background, where no one can see the sleepless nights or the moments when we break down in tears. Some of us heal and come out stronger—more independent, happier, and confident. But for most, the scars remain. Rebuilding trust in ourselves and others takes time. Learning how to live and love again feels like a mountain to climb. If you know someone going through this, here’s what you can do: Be kind. Please, less judgment, and fewer opinions. Respect privacy. Their story is theirs , not yours to tell. Support without prying. Don’t ask about their ex—it’s not your business. Respect boundaries. Being single is not an open invitation. When a woman is ready, she’ll let the right person know. To every woman who’s walked this journey: you are brave . You are more than what happened to you. You don’t need anyone’s permission to heal, to be happy, or to live your life on your terms. I know what it’s like to feel broken, to feel like your world has crumbled. But I also know what it feels like to stand back up, little by little, I rediscovered myself and found love again. I took back my power and now its time to take back yours. So to the women in my life and yours, who have fought through heartbreak, raised their children, rebuilt their dreams, and found a way to smile again: you inspire me. This isn’t just about surviving—it’s about thriving. You deserve all the love and happiness the world has to offer. I know men experience these struggles too, and many of these feelings can apply to them. But this is my perspective as a woman who’s lived through it. So please, have a heart. Show compassion. Respect the journey. And admire the strength it takes to start over and believe in life and love again. Written by Tersia Woodenberg from Soulcheck If you need support navigating you journey, lets connect. https://www.soulcheck.co.nz/ #HealingJourney #SelfEmpowerment #WomenAfterMarriage #Rediscovery #HealingAfterDivorce #CompassionMatters #SoulcheckHolisticTherapy #EmotionalHealing #WomenSupportingWomen #Counselling #Therapy
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